To each their own



To each their own yard stick, of so called honesty- morality, right-wrong, black-white or acceptable greys! 


  • Its ok to let the child make mistakes and learn
  • No Way, as a parent you must teach, else how will the child learn?
  • Its ok to look at other attractive people even though you are married
  • OMG, that’s cheating, you are married aren’t you?
  • Its ok to have tried and failed at times
  • Why don’t you try the already “tried & tested way?”
  • Its alright if you are not a distinction holder, remember everyone is not a winner
  • Everything else is nonsense, if you do not study well, you will get nowhere in life
  • Its ok to give into your feelings and temptations
  • Have you not heard about self control? How will you succeed at this rate?
  • Don’t force the child into something he/she does not like
  • Persist and you will build endurance
  • Everyone can have a different value system
  • You must teach the basic values, and help the child understand the difference between right and wrong
  • Evolve as you learn and grow
  • Get the basic right the rest will follow
  • Spend and Live life King Size
  • Save for a rainy day, how much do you really need after all

To each his/her own definition of so many things. Some moral - some not, some dishonest- some not, some blacks and whites and of course numerous greys. 

The shades in this world are many and so could be the reaction of varied people from different backgrounds. A large part of our beliefs and thought process emerges from our background and the way we were brought up.

The universe appears to have a way of balancing these extremes in the same family! You may find the parents on diverse thought processes around these life experiences.

So what really is right or wrong? Who decides? It could be a baffling experience for a child or a teenager or sometimes even for an adult to figure that out. Comparing your belief with that of somebody else could leave you feeling perplexed and guilty. Giving in to what you feel could also leave you wondering if that really was the right thing to do?

A discussion with a trusted one may help to a certain extent, however what really does work in these situations is the ability to listen, listen to your own intuition and what calls out to you at that moment.

Dwell upon this…

 Right is Right even if no one is doing it and Wrong is Wrong even if everyone is doing it! unknown

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